That’s what Kendrick has been telling us hahaha.
Ok, onto the real topic. I don’t know if any of you guys have experienced this, but I do. Anyway, I’ve always been insecure about my intelligence. I’m not really that smart, I’m just ok ok like that. Well my old college made me think that I’m dumb, but that was long ago. But y’all can tell by my current level. I’m doing HND and I’m pretty sure that I’ve been telling y’all this. HND is basically lower than degree, I only get to do double degree if I get to score this HND. I tell you, it was really, really hard for me to get myself into this position. I completely flipped my entire life, from doing science to law. I was the happiest when I get to secure myself a position to be one of the HND students doing criminal and sharia law and up until now I’m still over the moon! I loved almost all of the modules that I sat so far, no failing along the journey and I’ve never been so passionate of studying before. But of course, insecurity always find its way to crept in me.
One of the thing that I don’t really like when people ask about my study, is the reaction that I’d get.
“So where do you study?”
And then the relief face came. LIKE????
“Wait but aren’t you supposed to be doing degree by now? My son/daughter blah blah you guys are the same age blah blah he/she is in UK/Egypt/Aus right now”
Like OH MY GOD. I GET IT. I’M STUPID.
I’d just smile and kept myself silent, but only God knows how impacted I was with what has been said to my face. I sometimes let it sink in me so deep and cried until I fell asleep.
I know some of the parents can be boastful without them realizing sometimes, but please, don’t ever forget to stay humble. I’ve nothing against your son/daughter going to prestige university outside Brunei, I’ve soooo many smart friends that have gotten themselves scholarships to study abroad and I’m always and will always be proud of them. I mean I get it, you’re proud of them too. But at the same time, please please be a little sensitive of others’ feelings. Not everyone’s smart enough to get scholarships, but that doesn’t mean our future can never be as bright as your child. That doesn’t mean we didn’t work as hard.
What this specific type of parents doesn’t get is that, we all are just bunch of next generation young adults who are trying to be the best so we can replace you (who belittled some of us) in trying to make this country to be a better place. Your child, your friend’s children, your grandchild, me, you guys, we’re going to be someone someday. It doesn’t matter where our level is right now, degree, hnd, master or whatever it is, it should not stop you from pursuing your dreams. This is a reminder to myself too, you weak a$$.
It doesn’t matter what field you guys are pursuing currently. No field is better than any other. Just because your children’s doing the hardest course claimed by this world, that doesn’t mean you can look down on other people. Say your child’s going to be a doctor someday, he/she will still have wants and needs of pretty clothes and bags, and maybe it is designed by the art students who you claimed to have no future. What if these designs got plagiarized? They can hire a lawyer to sue. What if the lawyer fell sick? They go to doctors to seek for medication. And there would be no doctors without the help of the teachers and lecturers who fed them with enough knowledges. Can you guys see that??? It is all connected. I don’t see why we need to look down on each other when we’re actually going to need one and another?
So you guys, I want you guys to realize that no matter how slow the progress is going to be, if you’ve the determination and passion, you’ll reach your goals. It is okay if your pace is slower than most of your friends. If you guys have friends that are struggling with their studies and are trying their best to achieve their dreams, please help them along the way, just as simple as telling them that they can do it would be enough.
To think of it, our knowledges are just nothing in Allah swt’s eyes. Do you know that if we were to add all of the knowledges in this world, even the knowledges of those who invented things, the size of our knowledges combined would just be the size of a drop of water to Him? So who are we to boast and belittle others who aren’t as smart?
I think sometimes we just forgot how to be conscious of others’ feelings or we just get too excited and proud. I always told myself that whenever I encounter such person. So please, if you guys were to be parents someday, don’t ever repeat this mistake. It hurts. Instead of laughing over a child’s position, support them. It’d be a better world for us and for them. This world has enough hate already.
So whatever you’re doing right now, no matter where you are, in Brunei outside Brunei, local uni or the highest uni in this world, don’t ever stop hustling. Don’t give up. Stop saying that study is not important. I know it’s hard to get jobs nowadays even though you’ve studied your a** off, but it’s better to have no job but with knowledges tucked in your heart rather than being a complete empty tin. Try to change your intention of studying for the sake of God instead of getting jobs, have good faith in Him and He’ll lead the way, insyaAllah.
This is a reminder to me, and hopefully to you guys as well. No matter how many knowledges you’ve taken and no matter how much achievements you’ve earned, always keep your feet attached to the ground. Apa kata si Kendrick? Sit down (lil B), be humble. BAHAHA.